Saturday, August 31, 2013

Boy Crazy????

Hi Blog Friends!
Today I have a blog post just a little different from what I normally do. I HOPE you can find something in this to help your own daughters or a young lady you know.
A week ago we moved our children off to college! Our son is a Senior & our daughter will be a Freshman at the same school. There were MANY TEARS BEFORE we went & MANY UNEXPECTED HUGS! This will be her first time away from home & it is not only hard for her, but for us as well. The house is EXTREMELY QUIET! No more squeals & giggles & constant chatter....even her kitty has settled down. (Her kitty would follow her from room to room & if the door closed before she could enter, she'd sit at the door & meow till someone opened the door for her!) I'm SURE many of you can understand when  I say she is lonely for home & everything that she knows is sure.
We got her moved in & met her room  mate. We hoped all would go well, as this would be the first time to have a room mate too! The college is a Christian College & so they have high standards for behavior, & the kids even sign a statement of commitment to Christ-like behavior before they are admitted. Not everyone that attends the college is a Christian though. There have been many that have given their hearts to Christ during their time at this school because of their witness. I would say, just guessing, the MAJORITY of the kids aren't Christians.
Our daughter is a very considerate young lady & even here at home tip-toes around when she stays up late. There were activities for the kids the first week & she got in later than her room mate one night. She didn't want to disturb her & sat in her chair the WHOLE NIGHT for fear of waking her! OF COURSE, the next day she felt TERRIBLE! Our daughter was even uncomfortable getting a shower---communal bathrooms... Then, the next day she told me, I guess I need to think ahead & get my shower & be ready for bed....so, she gave in & got her shower & was sitting on the edge of her bed in her robe when, her room mate brought her boyfriend in carrying her TV! NOT GOOD!
My husband was VERY UPSET! Here our daughter is trying to get adjusted & she brings a guy into the room at 9:00 p.m.! (Daddy's UNDERSTAND MORE than we women sometimes.... My husband could see down the road & what could POSSIBLY HAPPEN...!) We checked with the Dean of Women & SURE ENOUGH, the girl DIDN'T HAVE PERMISSION to bring her boyfriend up to the room! ANOTHER CHANGE was coming!
Yesterday, we drove to the school &  after our daughter's classes we moved her to another room with a more compatible room mate, with the help of the Dorm Mom & her Resident Assistants. All week our daughter has been crying on the phone & wanting to come home, it has been quite stressful! I just keep encouraging her & telling her she CAN DO THIS! And telling her HOW PROUD I am of her! AND that she WILL LOVE THE WHOLE EXPERIENCE when she's settled in!  I have to say she has been SO MUCH BRAVER than I ever was in college! Going to activities ALONE & to lunch & dinner ALONE! We are SOOOO PROUD of her!  
There have been a couple of the girls in her dorm that have ZEROED in on her! NOT to our daughter's liking! They sat down at lunch one day with her & peppered her with questions so much that she couldn't eat! She is having a difficult time eating too, so this didn't help!  And she now has to wear a belt! (She's tiny to begin with!)  They want to giver her a "make-over!" Fix her up with boys! Teasing her that guys are winking at her! Our daughter knows she is there for her EDUCATION! She doesn't mind having guy friends along with girl friends, but she wants to CONCENTRATE on her EDUCATION! Her Father & I feel the same! A daughter who is SURE in her Father's Love doesn't NEED the affection/s of ANY GUY out there!  That is WHY it is SOOO IMPORTANT for Parents to maintain their homes! Parents work out their problems & BE THE EXAMPLE to their kids, that they need! It also shows the kids they can work out problems with friends! That is the reason GOD wants families to STAY TOGETHER! For children to be born into homes with BOTH PARENTS! It is VITALLY IMPORTANT TO A CHILD'S HEALTH & WELL-BEING! Father's & Mother's bring something DIFFERENT to the table just by being Male & Female! God made us DIFFERENT from each other & that's a GOOD THING!
As we were on the campus  yesterday, we noticed a lot  of LONELY people, VERY SURE OF THEMSELVES people, & "BOY CRAZY GIRLS!"  (You can SPOT the "boy crazy girls" a MILE-AWAY! I don't think they even know this!)
There are MANY DIFFERENT Fundamentals about Life that SHOULD BE TAUGHT in our homes, in our churches, in our places of learning that aren't being taught today. Just so our kids can be HEALTHY & THRIVE!!!!  When my husband & I were first married we got some little birds for pets. The pet store told us, we want them to "Thrive not just survive!" That is the same thing with children! We want them to THRIVE!!!!!! Not just survive!
I found a site today--(late in opening e-mails! You can understand why...) I was BLESSED by the video they showed & OF COURSE, want to win the book they are offering! I'll read it & pass it along to the Dean of Women! AFTER-ALL, it is a "Christian Campus!"
 It's called:
 CONFESSIONS OF A BOY CRAZY GIRL On Her Journey From Neediness To Freedom,
 by Paula Hendricks.
You can view the video yourself & get in on the giveaway too here:
(The deadline is Sept. 2nd to get in on the giveaway.)
I want to show you what I made for my daughter & her room mate too--- (Of course, with getting a new room mate, I'll have to make another one that will be according to her new room mate's taste! AND make the "Dorm Mom" something along with the Dean of Women, who have been there the whole time helping with this transition!)
Lastly, just so you know how things turned out this weekend & moving our daughter to her new room...She decided to STAY THE WEEKEND at school! She had planned to come home for the long weekend! WHAT A BRAVE GIRL!
HOPE you have a PEACEFUL & BLESSED weekend!
TLady
For your information:
The little purses where made with my own template. The zebra stripping was made with a marker & the stamps used are: Flourishes- Simply Charmed for the handle & the charm- Shine. The little tag is by SU- Tiny Tags. Each little bag holds 6 mini chocolate bars. These actually matched their room decor! One had the zebra stripes & pink & the other zebra stripes & lime green.

6 comments:

  1. The little "purses" are so cute. What a great idea to put in the dorm room for each of the girls. And what an encouraging post. I think parents put too much pressure on their daughters to grow up and that includes dating at too young an age! A wise parent will teach her daughter to FIRST love God and desire what He has for her and then other things will come in the right time. Very good post TLady :)
    Blessings,
    Catherine

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  2. Becky - these are simply adorable!!! ;)

    -pamela

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  3. You captured the concern of college parents very well in your post. Most people concentrate on how the student is adjusting, but it's just as traumatic for the parents. We encouraged our daughter to choose a college withing a 2-hour radius of home so that she could get home whenever she needed to. It worked out great for both of us! We were able to visit often to watch her play in field hockey games, or just to visit for a few hours. She was able to get home without getting on a plane or driving long distances. She and her roommate lived on campus all four years, so it was a good experience all around.

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  4. Oh my...I know the first couple of weeks can be rough. I hope your daughter will stand her ground! Our colleges (even the christian ones) have become way to liberal for my taste! I work for a university and it just disturbing how some young people dress, act and talk! Lord help me I have three girls...LOL!!! I'm already worried and hope that we have raised them right, so they don't do all the crazy things I see most days! We already told them for their undergraduate they still have to live at home, since they only have 10 minutes to drive.
    Anyway, enjoy your time with your daughter when she comes home on the weekends....hugs ~Silke~

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  5. Totally forgot to tell you that I like your sweet purses...definitely a great gift idea :) !!! Hugs ~S~

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